Romance Style of the Intellectual
As an Intellectual, you would rather show your knowledge about the history of St. Valentine’s Day that expresses your heartfelt emotions to your loved ones. You love deeply, but do not need to demonstrate your love in traditional ways as it interferes with your need for independence. You want to be appreciated for how you do love as well and as long as you are not expected to conform excessively, you are happy to go along for the ride on Valentine’s Day.
THE INTELLECTUAL: STRIVING TO BE KNOWLEDGEABLE
Intellectual Style people enjoy learning and strive to be competent. They are self-sufficient high-achievers, intellectually creative, and they tend to enjoy theoretical, technological or scientific subjects. Intellectuals are private people and need time alone to do their best work. They tend to be sceptical, critical, determined and often stubborn. They can appear to be emotionally distance. Intellectuals will tenaciously pursue knowledge and intellectual competence, and they can go to extremes to do so. Intellectually independent, Intellectuals are unimpressed with authority. They follow rules when it suits them to do so, and ignore them when it does not. They also dislike hierarchies, and they can frustrate and challenge those in authority by questioning everything.
Your Approach to Valentines Day: Low key or non-existent is the word for how you would like to pass the time on Valentine’s Day. You would rather show your knowledge about the history of St. Valentine’s Day that expresses your heartfelt emotions to your loved ones. You love deeply, but do not need to demonstrate your love in traditional ways as it interferes with your need for independence. You want to be appreciated for how you do love as well and as long as you are not expected to conform excessively, you are happy to go along for the ride on Valentine’s Day. You tend to be socially awkward and prefer to avoid situations where you are required to conform to socials norms. A quiet dinner at home, or something low key that has been planned by your lover that doesn’t make you feel incompetent, is right up your alley.
Potential Pitfalls: As you are naturally sceptical and intellectual, the notion of initiating a romantic tryst with your lover can send shivers of fear down your spine and have you heading for your office or library to hide out until it is over. On the other hand, you go through the motions of setting up or agreeing to the traditional Valentines evening to avoid disappointing your lover, and then show up grumpy and distracted. You can be the Scrooge of Valentine’s Day, taking the fun and enjoyment out of it for others. You are trying to be clever to avoid feeling socially incompetent; however, you are more likely to come across as smug or arrogant.
Tips for Intellectuals: Stop running away from your emotions and making it difficult for others to care about you. Understanding the meaning that ritual has for strengthening relationships can help you get into the pleasure of the experience, rather than have you on the outside looking in. Being a Scrooge at Valentines Day only builds resentment and keeps you on the outside, feeling safe but having to bear the resentment of your lover. You are missing the joy of love and the pleasure of intimacy by not allowing yourself to get involved with your lover emotionally. “Fake it till you make it.” Learn to act like a lover until it becomes second nature.
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