Romance Style of the Socializer

Romance Style of the Socializer

If you are a Socializer, you are a romantic at heart and need to be romanced in a public fashion. No holds barred for you. Out with the chocolate and roses! Wining and dining is the order of the day. You focus on making your partner feel special and there is no effort you won’t make to do this, as you want to show your lover how much you care. You shower them with attention and secretly want them to do the same for you although you may never ask them to.

Socializer Striving Style:  Striving to be Connected

Socializer Style people are enthusiastic, outgoing “people-people”. They are social organizers in every setting they find themselves in. Outgoing and charismatic, they are skilful and enthusiastic communicators; these abilities make Socializers natural and credible leaders or consultants. They are lively facilitators, at their best in situations involving interpersonal sensitivity. They are responsive to the needs of others, are dependable and will follow through with their commitments. Socializers have a gift for seeing human potential. They are compassionate, insightful, and sensitive to indifference. They are responsive to praise, but are sensitive to criticism. They take conflict and rejection personally. Socializers tend to idealize their relationships and can ignore things in others that are inconsistent with their idealization. They can sometimes overlook or ignore their own needs.

Your Approach to Valentine’s Day: You are a romantic at heart and need to be romanced in a public fashion. No holds barred for you. Out with the chocolate and roses! Wining and dining is the order of the day. You focus on making your partner feel special and there is no effort you won’t make to do this, as you want to show your lover how much you care. You shower them with attention and secretly want them to do the same for you although you may never ask them to. You prefer dinner to be in a social setting and you make sure you go to the right restaurant or party to enjoy having others around you. You have a great need for harmony and can easily abandon your own needs to avert an argument or conflict of interest should your partner not want the same thing as you do. You adapt so quickly and rationalize so well, that you can spend your Valentine’s Day doing what they want instead of what you prefer to do.

Potential Pitfalls: Doing what pleases others can cause you to neglect to check in with yourself to see what you actually want to do for Valentine’s Day. You may conform to what your partner want’s to do, supporting their approach to Valentine’s’ Day rather than making a stand for what you want and how you need to be treated. You love them, so you make them feel special at the expense of yourself. The downside is that once you get in touch with your feelings, you can also be cold as ice. Your characteristic warmth, understanding, and friendliness disappear. You can go after your partner with guns blazing, knowing just what to say to make sure they feel as hurt and upset as you do.

Tips for Socializers: Don’t pretend that it is okay to have a low key Valentine’s Day. You are a social animal and you need to be out and about with your mate. Dinner, dancing and extroverted loving is on the menu for you on this day, so don’t settle for less, at least every other year. Learn to negotiate rather than giving up your needs to resolve conflict and then making your lover pay later. You have natural communication skills so use them to your own benefit and don’t be afraid of making waves to negotiate for what you want. Everyone will be happier if you do.