Romance Style of the Visionary
Visionary Romance Style: You can spend so much time envisioning the day and enjoying yourself while doing it, that you don’t have time to actually make it real. In addition, your fear of acting on your emotions and showing your authentic romance style stops you and causes you to settle for the traditional flowers and dinner.
THE VISIONARY: STRIVING TO BE PERCEPTIVE
Visionary Style people have a predominant need to perceive or understand what is going on and how everything fits together. They possess and exhibit a high degree of understanding, insight, intuition, and analytical skills and are quickly able to size up a person or situation and give an accurate analysis. They gather, sort, and store information, and use this information to make decisions without conscious awareness. They are able to take in random information and make a nice, tidy system out of it. Introverted by nature, they do not always test their perceptions with others. Their empathetic abilities are so strong that they will be aware of another’s emotional state, illness, or distress before that person is aware of these. They are not always aware of their own needs and emotions and have difficulty with “real” relationships.
Your Approach to Valentines Day: Oh, how you love to envision all of the wonderful and romantic things you could do to impress your lover and express the depth of your feeling for them. You think of the most romantic scenario for Valentine’s Day, starting first thing in the morning right through to the grand finale for the evening or you imagine your partner doing this for you. You delight in the process of imagining what is possible and how lovely everything will be. As you are uncomfortable with physical and emotional expression, you tend to express warmth and caring through action, going to great lengths to purchase something special and uniquely meaningful for your partner. Too often, however, you will opt for the traditional Valentine’s Day dinner, not expressing your thoughts about what you would actually like to do, because expressing your needs and romantic ideas makes you feel anxious.
Potential Pitfalls: You can spend so much time envisioning the day and enjoying yourself while doing it, that you don’t have time to actually make it real. In addition, your fear of acting on your emotions and showing your authentic romance style stops you and causes you to settle for the traditional flowers and dinner. Because of your discomfort with self expression, you don’t communicate how deeply you feel toward your lover and end up disappointing them and yourself in the process. By the time dinner comes around, you are already upset with yourself and not much company for your lover.
Tips for Visionaries: Start “making it real”. Talk to your lover about your ideas to get some help with giving your ideas form. Leaving your wonderful imaginings of your romantic day mere thoughts cheats both you and your partner and gives them the wrong idea. Learn to love with your whole being, not just in thought form. If you begin to recognize your difficulty with making your personal visions reality, you can talk about it with your partner and engage their help in making it real. Bear feeling awkward and clumsy in the process so that you can enjoy creating a meaningful intimate experience.
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